Love Letter Number One

31 Mar

I’ve always wanted to write something about love that’s not cheesy but it’s so hard to do especially when you’re happy and a romantic like me.  Often I end up gushing or raving so much like a teenager.  I guess love makes us corny. 🙂

Like I always say, I feel so lucky and blessed by God for having been given the chance to meet my soulmate at an early age.  Some people take years and years of searching, several heartbreaks, and dozens of wrong relationships, before actually finding “the one”.  It’s a reality of life and there’s nothing wrong with that.  Some of us really have to go through all of those just to find the person we’re meant to be with for the rest of our lives. It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you.  It’s just really how it is.  This is indeed the reason why I cannot express how grateful I am for this wonderful blessing of Love in my life.

Unfortunately, not everyone has the same fate.  I have witnessed a lot of these “single life trials” from friends, relatives, and acquaintances.  I try my best to comfort them and make them learn from these experiences.  In fact, I also even learn from them as well.  At times there will be situations when friends become stubborn, some of them change completely because of these relationships, or worse some would even drift away.  These are the moments when I eagerly want to let them read the thoughts in my head.  These are the moments when I have always wanted to come up with the perfect words to say.

Since I will be one of the first to get married in my group of friends, I feel very blessed and thankful.  Yet apart from these feelings, I also think of it as a responsibility – a responsibility to share my blessing by at least imparting thoughts and learnings from my happy heart.  🙂  Here goes my love letter…


Dear you, yes you.  I have four things I want to tell you because I love you.  

ONE: Learn To Celebrate Love!

Whether you’re single, in a relationship, or in a complicated relationship… Young, old, or undergoing quarterlife crisis…  You should be able to celebrate love in your own way.  Love has various forms and it’s up to you to celebrate it.  If you can’t, there must be bitterness in your heart.  Take away that bitterness and be happy for people in love and be happy that love still exists.  It only means you can still find it. 🙂

TWO: Do Not Sulk If You’re Still Single. 

Don’t take it as some sort of bad luck, being single my dear friends, is actually a blessing.  It’s a gift of time and opportunity to learn more, discover what your wants and needs are, a time to define your principles, values and more importantly your self-worth.  Being single means you have more time to find out about what kind of person you are and what kind of person you want to become.  Everyone needs to go through this.  Moreover, take this as the perfect time to prepare yourself for “the one” – that one person God has set aside for you. In your being single my friends, you must find fulfillment not emptiness, security not insecurity, and peace not bitterness.  If this happens, your “singlehood” is definitely a blessing. However, if you find your hearts and minds filled with trouble and anxiety, hatred and angst, or worse envy towards others who are happily inlove…then obviously, being this kind of “singlehood” is like a curse.  Take it as blessing. 🙂

THREE: Truly Believe In Love – Even the Cheesy Kind.

Trust me, believing in true love does not and will not hurt.  It only hurts if you make yourself vulnerable and gullible because of this belief.  But if you believe and love in a sappy way but know the right from wrong and firmly stand by your principles, you will not find yourself astray.  Even after being hurt, betrayed, or abandoned, continue to desire for all the good things about love.  It’s easier said than done I know, but in believing in something which we have proven many times is real, there seems to be nothing to lose.  Try calming your heart down and avoid focusing too much on yourself by always actively looking or hunting for a partner.  On the contrary, widen your perspective and appreciate the love that’s already all around us.  You can see love in your parents and family members, your best friends, your colleagues, or even random people in the street.  Appreciate those kinds of love and try to love back!  Your heart will be so fulfilled that there will be a time when you will actually no longer look for love!  And you’ll be surprised to find out that it is when you are not looking, love will come find you. 🙂  I personally wasn’t looking for someone when my fiancé came into the picture.  We started out as classmates.  He said he had the biggest crush on me but I only saw him as some boy.  We managed to become friends and then liked each other.  We tried out a relationship even if we went to different colleges, had different interests and had different worlds and yet somehow our love still flourished.  Now, we’re getting married! ♥

FOUR: Pray For Love

Please always pray to Him.  Pray for the kind of love God has destined for each one of us.  Some of us will be blessed early, some later, but God will find a way to send us the message if we just talk to Him.  Remember that love doesn’t have to happen right now or when we want it but it will happen when God thinks we’re ready for it.  Even if your heart is injured and has been broken into pieces, God will definitely piece it back together.  Who knows, He might even reward you with a brand new heart for a fresh start to love completely again!  So please, I encourage you, to pray for the person you’re destined to be with.  Even if you don’t know him yet. 🙂


So there you go.  I hope I was able to write down everything in my head.  If not, maybe I’ll do another post next time – Love Letter # 2?  Haha!  I apologize for always raving about love.  I can’t please everybody and some might think I’m cheesy and sappy but true love and happiness are undeniable. It will show no matter how much you hide it.  🙂  I wish for the same happiness to fill all your hearts whether you’re single or happily inlove like me.  May all of us find joy in God’s love and the people around us.



Inlove and sharing the love,

♥ Abby Wasabi


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